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Fact sheet · Work and childcare

Our drop-off and reconnection plan

Fill this in together with your partner or co-parent, then share the educator notes with your child’s carers so everyone does the same thing. Keep goodbyes short, the same every time, and final.

Type straight into the boxes, then print or save as a PDF, or print it blank and use a pen.

1. The night before

Simple, predictable steps.

If they’re upset at goodbye: “I’ll give you a big cuddle, then I need to go. ________ will look after you.” Then I leave, and I don’t come back in, not even for a forgotten hat.

2. Our goodbye ritual

Under a minute. The same every time. Then go.

Our action

3. Notes for our educators

The more they know, the faster they can comfort your child.

Please contact me if they’re

4. My plan for after I leave

5. Pick-up and reunion

Meltdowns at pick-up are common. They’re safe with you.

How we’ll hear about their day

6. Settling-in log: the first two weeks

A few words a day. Look for the trend, not the perfect morning.

Week 1
DayGoodbyePick-upHow I felt
Mon
Tue
Wed
Thu
Fri
Week 2
DayGoodbyePick-upHow I felt
Mon
Tue
Wed
Thu
Fri

Check in after two or three weeks. If your child’s distress isn’t easing over several weeks, or you’re finding it hard to cope, talk with the educators, your GP or child health nurse, or a psychologist. PANDA 1300 726 306. In an emergency, call 000.

From the Mums Matter guide “Childcare drop-off is hard for me too: coping with the transition” at www.mumsmatterpsychology.com/guides/childcare-drop-off. General information only, not a substitute for advice about your own situation.

PANDA Helpline 1300 726 306
Lifeline 13 11 14 · Emergency 000